1) The reciprocity project. 2) Some post on how to find a niche and be a great consultant that I haven't found since. 3) "Respect and outcomes" 4) Findlaw's "What is the Definition of Domestic Violence" in where I finally realized that my ex was not just a painful person to deal with but a chronic abuser who I needed to get away from (as my therapist had been urging me to).