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This is actually the central reason I was so torn up over my experience, and one of the reasons the whole thing sometimes still haunts me. Because the only possible way out of my situation was to completely cut ties, and shut off the love. I'm a loving person and it absolutely tore me up for a long time. Eventually I came to terms with the fact that if I wanted to lead a life without torment, it was a necessary evil. These people will stop at nothing until you're twisted around their pinkie finger, and they will prey on your forgiving nature.

It's why I'm trying to call attention to how dangerous they are. But words aren't adequate to convey the breadth and magnitude of their ability to carve out chunks of your life for their own purposes. They'll take all your love and steamroll you in return.



You're personalty can't handle a psychopath mine can.

I'm not loving nor forgiving and although I do poses empathy and remorse can contentiously suppers it.

Everything has to be earned with me.

This applies to everybody including my own parents.

I grew up around manipulative people i know how to deal with them. I actually instinctively distance myself from them.

I'm not saying I would be his friend but i find his point of view valuable as long as he doesn't try it with me. I would notice if he did.


"You're personalty can't handle a psychopath mine can.”

You actually come off like someone who claims that they had grown up around airplane pilots and therefore can handle gravity. It’s actually unlikely you can.

"I would notice if he did.”

I’m just going to call that posturing.


More like i was born on a planet so i can handle gravity.

The only thing i meant by that is that he/she is the sweet, loving, sensitive type nothing wrong with that but may not be well suited for some things.

I on the other hand am fascinated by psychology and love surrounding myself with different types of people even psychopaths.

Everybody has to offer a unique way of looking at things.

Some may consider that crazy, maybe it is.

I don't fall under any definition of normal that's for sure but normal is boring anyway.


Actually, that's a pretty common, normal line of thinking, often summarized as "those things happen to the other people". Even the declared love of psychology is quite usual, as is the dismissal of "normal".

Sweet/loving/sensitive type dismissal shows a huge disconnect. People hurt that way include soldiers, astronauts, public performers, politicians, enterpreneurs and many others. You're not really looking into people, you're romanticizing the diseases they have, and that really comes off as patronizing in most cases, and in this case as reckless and patronizing.


Mm, well, best of luck. It was more a warning for people without your unique skillset, though.


Gotta say, this reads like you got a screw loose in your own self.


Amen.

;)




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